abuse

[donna]

when i was 14 my mother had a husband that abused me mentally and physically. she would never believe me that it happened. she always thought i was the cause. i was raped by a friend of his but of course he was let go because my mothers husband was on the security force in town. from the day i was born i was never wanted by her and i never knew my real dad. it is hard to go through life not being wanted and abused. i was not always abused, my mother married when i was 6 to a great man the only daddy i knew but he died when i was 13 and she remarried the abuser 3 months later. my mother has since passed away and i was unable to have much feelings for her at that time. dont get me wrong i loved my mother but i had no respect for her. to me you have to earn that title of mother. my children are grown now and i have 2 loving grandsons that i adore. my children know what i went through and i swore they would never have to go through it either and they did not. my grandsons will know one day because i plan to tell them because they also will have to learn that abuse is not a sickness but a meaness. i have heard people say well he inherited from his parents or that his father did the same thing but there is no excuse because you dont have to follow in their footsreps.